You may not like all of them. Some will be more challenging than others. But they are all crucial in your long term success. Each step represents a unique challenge. Tackle them at your own pace with the support of a sponsor. Group therapy and 12 step support groups can also help—whether you need accountability, fellowship, or simply a listening ear.
AA co-founder Bill Wilson likely based this concept heavily on the work of Dr. William Silkworth. Silkworth was among the first to approach alcoholism as a disease. Addiction is not viewed here as a behavior controlled by willpower. Step One aims to relabel the addiction of any affected individuals as a disease similar to a lethal allergy. Admitting that addiction cannot be cured by pure behavioral will is the first hurdle.
This lack of control must be understood before a member can proceed with recovery. Where the previous step may have spurred questions around being powerless to the addiction, the Second Step aims to show them a way forward.
This Power usually has a larger presence than an individual person. This language is intended to make this belief accessible to all secular and spiritual people. Some may choose medical professionals, or the process of recovery itself.
Hope stems from the fact that recovery is possible. However, this is only true once you put aside ego and the illusion of control.
The acceptance in Step One allows room for external guidance to assist individuals on their road to recovery. Despite the spiritual language, note that 12 step programs are open to all. They encourage anyone to use the program with their own concept of higher Power.
Since addiction cannot be controlled internally, external help is required to proceed. Engaging with their higher Power is just a process of conversation and reflection. They reflect internally on experiences, using these lessons to talk with external help. Turning your will over does not mean all control of life is in the hands of the external. This may be painful, but it helps them to process their impact. All that one may think, say, or do should be noted and processed. Both are important when one is choosing actions that are morally correct.
Meditation and acceptance in Step Three is an important practice for this reflection. The affected individual learns to accept weaknesses and amplify strengths. Shame creates a cycle of relapse that is challenging to break. As you unburden yourself, the release helps you avoid unhealthy coping.
Admitting specific harmful behaviors began in Step Four. This renewal process is a gift of healing for us. By actively working the program of Co-Dependents Anonymous, we can each realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives. This is a safe place to join for recovery from the effects of codependency on our lives.
We have scheduled meetings in our 24 hour chat room and a forum message board to help us work out our recovery together. Our dedication is to personal growth, healing and recovery. Nothing you see here such as text, book excerpts, banners, icons, avatars, links, etc.
As an organization, S. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous neither endorses nor recommends other organizations; any such references are only to provide individuals with the opportunity to learn about other Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition recovery groups dealing with addiction especially to sex, love and relationships. Permission to reprint and adapt the Twelve Steps does not mean that AA is affiliated with this program. AA is a program of recovery from alcoholism only, use of the Twelve Steps and the Twelve Traditions in connection with programs and activities which are patterned after AA, but which address other problems, does not imply otherwise.
Feel free to help! Your ideas and suggestions are welcome. Would you mind helping me do that? Click link for agenda We are glad that you are here! We are a Step, Tradition recovery fellowship. We counter the destructive consequences of one or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency and sexual, social and emotional anorexia here!
We recover by sharing experience, strength, and hope using online chat. We conduct international online meetings to aid our mutual recovery patterned after Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous , and are a registered group with them. Org network of IRC servers hosts our meetings.
Our chat room channel is not listed in the channel listings for the sake of anonymity. I have divided it into three parts to look at in this chapter. Having had a spiritual awakening We tried to carry the message to others And to practice these principles in all our affairs. In the Twelve Step community the word spiritual usually doesn't mean the same thing as the word religious. For many, spiritual refers to being in touch with and living on the basis of "reality".
A spiritual woman, for instance, would be in touch with her own reality, her own feelings, her own controlling and diseased behaviors and character defects as well as her own preciousness and gifts. She would be in touch with the reality of other people and with ultimate reality in the experience of a Higher Power, God. In that sense a "spiritual awakening," whatever else it might include, is an awakening to seeing and dealing with reality in one's own life and in relationships with other people and with God We let pain do the persuading, because we know that it is only through pain that the hunger for healing comes that will make us ready to admit our powerlessness.
We know that until the pain of our lives was greater than the fear of swallowing our pride and going for help, we were not hungry enough for healing to go for it through the Twelve Steps When we first read that we were to "practice these principles in all our affairs," some of us didn't understand.
How could we use the Twelve Steps to deal with conflict in a personal relationship or a decision about buying a house? Gradually we realized that "practicing principles" means taking specific usable pieces of truth out of larger truths and applying the smaller principles to a different situation If we've made it to this point, we've had a spiritual awakening. Though the nature of our awakening is as individual and personal as our spiritual path, the similarities in our experiences are striking.
Almost without exception, our members speak of feeling free, of feeling more lighthearted more of the time, of caring more about others, and of the ever-increasing ability to step outside ourselves and participate fully in life.
The way this looks to others is astonishing. People who knew us when we were in our active addiction, often appearing withdrawn and angry, tell us that we're different people.
Indeed, many of us feel as if we've begun a second life. We know the importance of remembering where we came from, so we make an effort not to forget, but the way we lived and the things that motivated us seem increasingly bizarre the longer we stay clean.
Many of us wonder, though, exactly how this concept works. It's simple, really. We reinforce our recovery by sharing it with others. When we tell someone that people who go to meetings regularly stay clean, we are more likely to apply that practice to our own recovery. When we tell someone that the answer is in the steps, we are more likely to look there ourselves. When we tell newcomers to get and use a sponsor, we are more likely to stay in touch with our own.
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